From jeton at hotmail.com Mon Jun 2 01:46:22 2003 From: jeton at hotmail.com (Jeton Ademaj) Date: Mon, 02 Jun 2003 01:46:22 -0400 Subject: [Prishtina-E] Fwd: Gay Rights In Kosova / BCR # 433 Message-ID: >From: "Institute for War & Peace Reporting" >GAY KOSOVARS FLIRT WITH DANGER > >Fierce homophobia forces members of Kosovo's gay community to lead double >lives. > >By Tanja Matic in Pristina > >Veton is at ease amongst the well-groomed, watchful young men who frequent >the more flamboyant bars of London's Soho district. > >The 27-year-old left Kosovo ten years ago. Sitting in a Soho bar on a >Sunday afternoon, he says he has no intention of going back to a violent, >prejudiced society where he would be regarded as a criminal. > >However, unlike most Albanians living in London, Veton is not a victim of >ethnic conflict. > >Nor is he part of the minority involved in the vice trade - the Albanian >gangs which, London police say, now dominate the capital's underworld. > >The reason Veton prefers Soho to Kosovo is his sexuality - he is openly >gay. > >"I cannot live there because my lifestyle with my partner would be seen as >shocking and abhorrent. No one's harassing us here," said Veton, whose >name has been changed at his request. > >Homosexual relationships, though technically not illegal, have always been >a matter of shame and taboo in Kosovo. Gay men who do not want to become >the pariahs of this fiercely patriarchial society make sure they keep >their relationships secret. > >Gay rights activists say the situation has not improved, despite the >post-war influx of western money and values. They receive regular reports >of men being beaten up or intimidated on suspicion of being gay, while >homophobic views are routinely published in Kosovo's newspapers. > >But they say the problem has failed to attract the attention of human >rights groups in the area because fear of being "outed" stops most gays >from reporting hate crime to the authorities. > >Kosovo ombudsman, Marek Nowitzki, told IWPR he had not been informed of >any such attacks during the past two years, but added "there are cases >which are not usually reported to the police". > >"We are dealing with a very traditional society here... there is no >tolerance for homosexuals at all," said Nowitzki. > >Kosovo's gays are at a critical point in their struggle for acceptance - >encouraged, on the one hand, to be bolder by their exposure to western >media and values, while on the other hand, still bound by the expectations >of a fiercely conservative society. > >Experts have tried to explain Kosovo's antipathy towards gays by looking >to the Code of Leka Dukagjini, the law that has guided Albanian clans >since the 15th century. Although the code makes no direct mention of >homosexuals, it heavily emphasises masculine honour. To this day, men who >deviate from their customary role as husbands and fathers are accused of >bringing shame and stigma upon the entire family, if not the clan. > >"Men are expected to act as real men - strong and macho," said Martin >Berisha, president of Kosovo's first gay and lesbian association, Elysium >and Sappho. "That is why the Kosovo Albanian community will not accept >someone who does not behave as a man in the way the patriarchial society >thinks he should," said Berisha. > >While Kosovo's gays try to keep a low profile, their enemies have become >increasingly brazen. > >The daily newspaper Zeri recently produced an article backed by comments >from various academics and religious leaders, putting forward the view >that homosexuality was unnatural. > >Kosovo's top imam, Sabri Bajgora, caused particular offence in gay circles >by warning that Islamic law regarded homosexuality "as a disease which >needed to be healed and prevented". > >The article also claimed that the leading human rights group in Kosovo, >the Council for the Defence of Human Rights and Freedoms, had no clear >stance on the matter. A spokesman for the council, Ibrahim Makolli, >confirmed to IWPR that they did not "have any defined attitude" towards >the subject. > >Martin Berisha said the council's neglect was disappointing, adding, "If >they, as human rights activists, don't have a clear stance on this issue, >then what can we expect from religious extremists or even the common >folk?" > >Observers say attitudes towards homosexuals within Kosovar society may >also have hardened because of the recent conflict with Serbia, during >which machismo was held up as a patriotic virtue. > >Worryingly, some Albanian conservatives believe this virtue is once again >facing an external threat - not from the Serbs, but from the westerners >who now live and work in Kosovo. > >In an article published last September, the daily newspaper Epoka E Re >spoke of the "dangerous ways and behaviour brought by the foreigners", >before naming a restaurant near the university in Pristina as a popular >meeting place for homosexuals. > >According to the OSCE's media advisor in Kosovo, Willem Houwen, three >members of Kosovo's gay and lesbian association were beaten up immediately >after the article was published. > >Houwen, who helped the association to become registered in Kosovo, told >IWPR that when one victim reported the assault to local police, he was >mocked and verbally abused. No action was taken against the perpetrators. > >As Kosovo has no hate crimes law that distinguishes between an attack on a >homosexual and an ordinary assault, gays are loathe to report homophobic >attacks to the police. But whether such legislation were introduced or >not, society would immediately seize upon any such complaint as an >admission of homosexuality - a disaster for the many gays who lead >dangerous double-lives as devoted husbands, fathers and sons. > >At a private party in Pristina, such men are happy to discuss and discard >their disguises. > >A 25-year-old man from northern Kosovo speaks of how he lies to his >parents every time they ask him why he hasn't found himself a girl to >marry. His boyfriend, an American, adds that his partner is deeply >paranoid of being discovered. > >A 40-year-old from Presevo in southern Serbia spends every weekend with >his lover in Pristina after telling his family he has left town on >business. > >Another young man kisses his lover and says, "Doing this in our office or >anywhere outside would be suicide." > >Tanja Matic is an IWPR associate in Pristina. > _________________________________________________________________ MSN 8 with e-mail virus protection service: 2 months FREE* http://join.msn.com/?page=features/virus